And why none of it says anything real about who you are.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the strange pressure that social media puts on us.
How it slowly teaches us to behave, what to show, what to hide, and who we’re supposed to be.
And somewhere in that quiet shaping of our habits, many of us lose the courage to simply… be ourselves.
It sounds dramatic, but it’s true.
We copy how other people talk.
We try to match the “right” vibe.
We hide the parts of our life that feel too messy, too ordinary, too human.
And the wild part?
Most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it.
We’re so used to polishing our lives that the real parts start to feel like a risk.. something that might make us look weak, or behind, or somehow less successful.
But I want to ask something I’ve been asking myself a lot lately:
When did being human become something to fear?
Because that’s what this really comes down to.
Social media has turned vulnerability into a performance, authenticity into a strategy, and real life into something to be carefully edited until it barely resembles anything real.
And it’s not your fault.
The whole system is designed this way.
The illusion of “perfect” lives
Let’s be honest:
Most people online are not living the lives they show.
And I don’t say that to judge anyone, I say it because we need the reminder.
I’ve learned things about this industry that still surprise me:
Many “success gurus” rent luxury cars, Lamborghinis, Ferraris for a single day just to film content that makes them look wealthy.
Those “private jet” photos?
There are entire studios built to look like airplane cabins.
People book photo sessions inside them.
Aesthetically perfect houses?
Often staged, borrowed, or shot in a tiny corner while the rest of the place looks like a normal home.
I’m not saying everyone lies.
I’m saying many people perform.
And when you compare your real life: your laundry pile, your slow mornings, your tired days, your unanswered messages to someone else’s curated performance… of course you start to feel behind.
But you’re not behind.
You’re just comparing your life to something that isn’t real.
Why we hide our real selves
I don’t think we avoid honesty because we’re dishonest.
I think we avoid it because we’re scared.
Scared of being judged.
Scared of being misunderstood.
Scared of showing too much.
But also… scared of not fitting into the “story” that everyone else seems to be living.
What if your life is slower?
What if you’re unsure?
What if you’re not chasing the same goals?
Social media has created this illusion that there’s only one “right” way to live — fast, aesthetic, optimized, always improving, always performing.
But there isn’t one right way to live.
There’s only your way.
Your pace.
Your priorities.
Your rhythms.
And none of it has to look impressive to matter.
The pressure to buy into a dream
There’s another layer to all of this, the way fear is used to sell.
“Act now before it’s too late.”
“If you don’t start today, you’ll fall behind.”
“This is your one chance to change your life.”
You see it everywhere.
Courses. Coaching. Marketing tricks.
Always the same message:
If you don’t move faster, better, bigger… you’ll fail.
But here’s the truth:
You won’t fail because you took your time.
You won’t fail because you chose a calmer life.
You won’t fail because you didn’t buy into someone else’s dream.
You get to choose your pace.
You get to decide what matters to you.
You get to live a life that actually feels real, even if it’s quiet, simple, or small by online standards.
Success isn’t a performance.
It’s a feeling.
A way of living that feels honest when no one is watching.
Being human is not a disadvantage
If you’ve ever felt like you need to hide your sadness, your confusion, your uncertainty,
please hear this:
You’re not less because you have bad days.
You’re not behind because your life looks different.
You’re not failing because you don’t fit the online “aesthetic.”
Being human is not a flaw.
It’s the point.
And the more we allow ourselves (and each other) to show up imperfectly,
the more honest this whole world becomes.
You don’t need to perform your life.
You don’t need to polish it.
You don’t need to chase anyone else’s dream.
You are allowed to be exactly who you are:
without filters, without pressure, without fear.
And that version of you?
The real one?
That’s the one the world actually needs.